For a number of years, I referred to myself as a cross stream swimmer in the John MacArthur/ RC Sproul/ John Piper/ DA Carson/ Michael Horton/ Wayne Mack/ Jay Adams/ Tedd Tripp/ Paul Tripp/ Martha Peace/ Joshua Harris/ CJ Mahaney/ Mark Dever/ Alexander Strauch/ Tim Keller /insert your favorite here/ ecosystem. Then, I realized that I was done with my cross-stream swimming and had reached the other side of the stream, as opposed to going with the flow and being swept out to sea. I was still in the ecosystem, mind you, but was standing on the opposite shore watching the stream flow.
Now I'm no longer in the ecosystem, but am still keeping contact with those who are, and keep up with some of the trends by way of internet. And, I'm no longer coming to conclusions about the ecosystem all by myself, but have connections with people who critique it both from within and without, including former ecosystem critters.
What I should say at this point, is that the names I listed above are by no means people who I am enemies with, or who I disagree with most of the time, etc. What I do have against the above mentioned ecosystem is that the teachings of these people are placed front and center in the particular brand of Calvinism in which I was immersed (to use a baptism term), and are looked at as blueprints for Christian living. Each expert has his/her body of work that comes to be viewed as "the" biblical way to live. It is turned into a formula for godly, biblical living. Deviation from the formula is the root of all problems in that particular area of life.
What we learned... uhm, I mean, what God providentially revealed to us in His divine sovereignty, was that these formulaic ways of living have serious limitations, and it's quite possible to have God-ordained circumstances that place individuals or families outside of the boxes that circles of people create with these teachings. And if you're outside the box, it's probably your fault. But that's okay, because if you believe in God's sovereignty (as opposed to other people's sovereignty) you know that you're the one who knows more about your own situation than anybody else does, and that God had more to do with that situation than other people did anyway. And God will have more influence on you learning to deal with things the best way than other people would (if you pay more attention to God, that is).
Maybe one of these days if I have the guts, nerve and unction, I'll write about how some of these people's teachings fall short in dealing with real life. Real life like the one I have to live.
[Correction: I accidentally wrote Johnathan Harris, when I should have written Joshua Harris. D'oh! Thanks, JA, for catching it!]
[Update 12/27/12: I may have a misnomer here. I should probably refer to "New Calvinism" rather than "Neo-Calvinism." Neo-Calvinism is a form of Dutch Calvinism influenced by Abraham Kuyper, where New Calvinism is the animal I'm talking about here. In recent years it has become popular to use the term "Neo-Calvinism" to speak of the "New Calvinism" movement.]